I have some exciting news to announce: I’m engaged to a wonderful, godly man named Paz, and we are getting married February 9th, 2013! I thought I would share our love story on my blog, since I’ve been pretty sparse on the details thus far (all pictures are from our engagement weekend):
Back in October 2008, I had just gotten involved in the singles ministry at Sovereign Grace Church, where Paz was also going to church at the time. It was a tradition for the singles to go out to lunch after church on Sundays, so the first time I went with the group was to Joe’s Farm Grill in Gilbert. Paz sat across from me at a picnic table out back under a gigantic tree. I remember him introducing himself, being so warm and inviting, and talking about wanting to climb the tree despite the sign prohibiting it. We interacted for a few months after that in group settings, but nothing really happened between us and neither one of us was on the other person’s “radar.” We lost contact after the summer of 2009 and only saw each other once or twice through mutual friends at parties and other hang outs.
Fast forward to July 12, 2012. Paz had just gotten a haircut and sent a picture to his sister to post on Facebook. She coyly added the caption “my studly and single brother.” After seeing the picture, it prompted me to look at his profile page, where I saw that Paz had moved to Dallas to go to seminary. I prayed for him the rest of that day and then sent him a brief message of encouragement through Facebook that night. Meanwhile, Paz had felt as though that day might be the day that he met his future wife. When nothing had happened, he started to go to bed that night and shrugged it off. Until a notifcation of a new message from Facebook came through. Paz got my message and responded the next day.
After a few days of messaging and texting, we both separately began to see that perhaps this could be something more than friendship. We set up a Skype date for Tuesday, July 17, 2012. That night, after talking for 5 hours, Paz asked me to begin pursuing a relationship with him. For six weeks we dated long distance, using every means of technology possible to communicate with each other and have “phone dates” (which just aren’t quite the same as in-person dates). We were both thrilled when Paz got the opportunity to move back to Phoenix at the beginning of September, and we began counting down the days until we could be reunited.
On August 31, 2012, Paz surprised me by moving back a day earlier than originally planned. We were so excited to finally be together in the same state and go on our first real, in-person date. The first week that Paz was back, however, our relationship was tested when Paz began having health issues and was hospitalized for a week. God gave me such strength and faith to get through this time of uncertainty of how to care for Paz, and by God’s grace it only brought us closer together as a couple. As Paz was recovering and healing, that meant that fancy and adventurous dates were really out of the question for us. So we began a new routine of simple at-home dates and just having times of normal everyday life together. We both agree that God used this time to build on our foundation of friendship that had already been growing and growing the previous weeks. And as our friendship grew, our love for each other blossomed as well.
On Friday, November 2, 2012, Paz and I went to dinner at Joe’s Farm Grill, the place where we met 4 years ago. After dinner we walked to a nearby park. I sat on a bench with my eyes closed as Paz read to me a love poem that he had written to me; it was an acrostic that spelled out “would you marry me?” (which I didn’t see until afterwards, because my eyes were closed). When he told me to open my eyes, he was on one knee with the ring in hand, and he asked me to marry him. I said YES! To celebrate, we went to Flagstaff that weekend to enjoy the beautiful autumn scenery and visit good friends.
We are so grateful to God for the way He brought us together, and we pray that He continues to bless us as we enter into marriage together. We believe, as the Bible says, that marriage is a reflection of Christ’s love for His Church, and we look forward to practically living that out every day together.
“Two are better than one,
because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—
a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)